OK, so you’ve followed some tips from girlfriend, dating tips, dating for girls, tips for girls, tips for guys and landed yourself a date with a girl you really like. You think you need a girlfriend and she could be the answer. Awesome. Now you have to deal with the next bit, which is coming across as a cool, confident guy and potentially gaining a new girlfriend, wife, f*ck buddy etc. Truth is I messed up a lot of dates in my early days and for the life of me couldn’t figure out where I was going wrong. Until I met a guy who was what we call a “natural”, he took me under his wing and taught me exactly how to be my best self on each and every date.
1.Choose a venue for the date near your house. Somewhere quiet, relaxed where you feel comfortable. Make an effort to go alone the day before your date, have a quiet drink and get to know the bar staff. They’ll love you and the next day you roll in with your girl she’ll be amazed at how well you get along with everybody. The PUA community calls this “social proof” but I call this common sense.
2. Dress well but don’t over dress. Take time in picking your clothes and then forget about them. I can’t stress this enough, once you’ve found an outfit put it on and then think about it no more. You’re going for effortlessly stylish, not self-conscious.
3.Talk about her. Girls love conversations about themselves. It’s s a massive generalisation but it’s generally true. It helps if your genuinely interested, which I’m sure you are so make an effort to ask open ended questions. I.e. what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done on a date or what city would you most like to live in.
4.Drink, but don’t get drunk. A glass of red wine to calm the nerves is fine but don’t stumble around the bar like an alcoholic, it’s not hot. Be sure to calm yourself before you leave the house and limit your drinking to 2-3 glasses of wine. Enough to loosen you up and not make you throw up.
5.So now your confidence is sky high and your relaxed. BUT, you need to make sure you don’t get thrown in the friend zone and turn into another guy secretly wanting more from his female friends. This is where escalation comes in and slowly increasing the physicality between you and the girl so when it comes to the end of the date a kiss, or more, is on the cards. Start off with eye contact, and then brush her when you make a point, work up to things like hugs and putting your arms around her and gradually decrease the space between you both. It helps if you sit next to her as opposed to opposite, as it helps build comfort and gets over the interview vibe that is set up when facing each other.
So there are my top tips. Make sure you follow them and I’m sure you’ll have an awesome date. Remember don’t take dating too seriously and you’ll have the girls you always wanted in no time at all. need a girlfriend, need girlfriend, how to flirt, how to get a good girlfriend, worlds best wome
